Showing posts with label teen suicide. Show all posts
Showing posts with label teen suicide. Show all posts

Wednesday, December 7, 2011

A Never-Ending Battle: Religion vs Sexual Orientation

The battle rages on ... Dalton McGuinty's Liberal Government has introduced anti-bullying legislation, which includes having Gay-Straight Alliances in publicly funded Catholic schools. This legislation is partly in response to the spike in teen suicides related to bullying - more specifically, LGBTQ teens who have been bullied to the point of suicide.

The response to this legislation has, of course, been dramatic. As quoted in an article in The Star:

Some Christian and Jewish groups are denouncing Premier Dalton McGuinty’s anti-bullying legislation, calling it a front for his “radical sex education” agenda.
 
The Institute for Canadian Values held a news conference Tuesday, condemning the premier for a section of the new anti-bullying legislation that allows for all publicly funded school boards to “host gay clubs.”
 

Excuse me? Since when have GSA's (Gay-Straight Alliances) become "gay clubs"? Give it a rest, people! The "Institute for Canadian Values" sure doesn't represent MY Canadian values!


I can only hope that McGuinty stands his ground on this one, unlike when he folded on the proposed physical and health education curriculum changes in 2010.


For your reading pleasure, I've posted the entire article from The Star below. Enjoy!

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Anti-bullying bill a front for ‘sex ed’ agenda, groups say


By: Tanya Talaga

A church versus state battle is erupting at Queen’s Park.

Some Christian and Jewish groups are denouncing Premier Dalton McGuinty’s anti-bullying legislation, calling it a front for his “radical sex education” agenda.

The Institute for Canadian Values held a news conference Tuesday, condemning the premier for a section of the new anti-bullying legislation that allows for all publicly funded school boards to “host gay clubs.”

The Institute’s president is Dr. Charles McVety, a politically savvy evangelist who was against proposed changes to the provincial physical health and education curriculum last year. Those changes included discussing same-sex couples with Grade 3 students.

“We don’t understand why this keeps coming back,” McVety said.

But speaking in Windsor, McGuinty denounced his critics by strongly saying Catholic schools “will have gay-straight alliances.”

“Are there gay children attending Catholic schools in Ontario? Yes. Are there gay teachers teaching in Catholic schools in Ontario? Yes,” McGuinty told reporters.

“The purpose of our accepting schools act is to send a strong signal to all Ontarians, of all faiths and backgrounds, all places of origin, culture, ethnicities, in our province and our publicly funded schools — schools will be warm and accepting of all our children, regardless of their sexual orientation as well.”

The anti-bullying legislation, created after recent high-profile youth suicides including that of Ottawa teen Jamie Hubley, was introduced by the Liberals last week. The 15-year-old said he was bullied due to his sexual orientation.

“I fully expect Catholic kids will use the word ‘gay,’ ” said McGuinty. “I fully expect Catholic teachers will use the word ‘gay’ and as a Catholic premier in Ontario, I am going to talk about gay kids.”

Progressive Conservative MPP Frank Klees sponsored the press conference at Queen’s Park and while a handful of Tory MPPs were in attendance, PC Leader Tim Hudak distanced himself from McVety’s views.

“There should be, in all our public schools, some committee to help students who are being bullied for sexual orientation — also for disability, race, religious background, what have you,” he said, adding that includes Catholic schools.

But there is a time and place for everything, said Rondo Thomas, of the Toronto-based Evangelical Association, but there is no “time and place” in an 8-year-old’s mind to try to make them conceptualize something beyond “tying their shoes.”

“The anti-bullying legislation that Mr. McGuinty is proposing constitutes a violation of our religious freedoms that are guaranteed by the Charter of Rights and further to that, it violates the common law of separation of church and state,” he said.

The backlash to introducing this bill could be “quite severe,” he said.

Thomas even evoked the premier’s mother into the mix. “The premier’s mother said to him, ‘Dalton, I didn’t raise you this way,’ ” he said.

However, the premier’s office later told the Star they had no idea what Thomas was talking about.

The premier is misguided on the anti-bullying legislation and it really is an attack on faith-based schools, said Jack Fonseca of the Campaign Life Coalition. Mendel Kaplan, of the Council of Orthodox Rabbis and one of the religious leaders holding the press conference, agreed.

Fonseca accused McGuinty of trying to force Catholic schools to act against the wishes of the bishops. “That is a violation of Catholic rights in Ontario,” he said.

Kaplan said he believes “the legislation encroaches on our religious freedoms.”

Fonseca also attacked McGuinty’s faith, calling him a convenient Catholic during election time when he needs votes.

“Dalton McGuinty is unfortunately not a great Catholic on the moral issues. He supports abortion on demand, taxpayer funding of abortion and he supports gay marriage,” Fonseca said.

But the Liberals shot back at the institute during question period.

There is nothing “radical” making sure every student has the tools to succeed in school, said Education Minister Laurel Broten.

“The official Opposition needs to be clear where they stand — there is no room for division.”

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- Candice :)

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Another gay teen suicide - RIP Jamey


Jamey Rodemeyer, a 14 year old boy from New York, is dead. He committed suicide after being bullied over his sexuality. This is such a devastating story; another young person who was bullied and received so much hate that he couldn't see another way out.

A few months ago, Jamey posted a video for The It Gets Better Project. As the bullying continued, Jamey posted several more messages on YouTube and his blog, talking about his suicidal feelings and the abuse he was experiencing. Tragically, he hid what was going on from his parents, who were supportive of him and had enrolled him in counselling. I can only imagine how it felt to find his body outside of their family home on Monday.

I'm so angry and sad about this, I don't know what else to say.  So instead of rambling on, here is an excerpt from the article on "The Telegraph" where I first read about this tragedy.
Anonymous commenters were posting abusive messages under posts Jamey had made to Formspring, a social networking site, where he continued to discuss his unhappiness.

 

"Jamie is stupid, fat, gay and ugly. He must die!," one post said. Another read: "I wouldn't care if you died. No one would. So just do it :) It would make everyone WAY more happier!"

 

In an online posting earlier this month, Jamey wrote: "I always say how bullied I am, but no one listens. What do I have to do so people will listen to me?"

 

The day before, he wrote: "No one in my school cares about preventing suicide" and reminded his readers that it was national suicide prevention week. He then posted the lyrics to a song by the group Hollywood Undead, which read: "I just wanna say good bye, disappear with no one knowing".

 

On Sunday, Jamey made two final posts to one of his blogs – one saying he was looking forward to seeing his late great grandmother, and another in tribute to Lady Gaga, his favourite singer, who inspired him with her anthem to self-confidence "Born This Way". His body was found on Monday.

- Jon Swaine, New York (The Telegraph)

You can read the full article by clicking here: Boy, 14, found dead over gay bullying

Please spread the word about this most recent and devastating teen suicide.

Below I've listed a number of resources and helplines available to teens facing bullying, and LGBTQ youth in particular.  Please support these organizations however you can, whether by donating funds, taking a pledge or simply sharing a link to their site.

Thank you.

- Candice

YouthLine(Canadian) - 1 800 268 9688


PFLAG Canada


The It Gets Better Project


The Trevor Project (US) - 1 866 488 7386


PostSecret (not an LGBT specific site, but definitely excellent)


GLAAD


Sex Ed Central - Education Central

Sunday, October 3, 2010

Homophobic Bullying - It Must Stop

As Ellen DeGeneres said it in her recent video about this issue, "One life lost in this senseless way is tragic; four lives lost is a crisis".

In the past month alone, at least four teens in the US have committed suicide after being subjected to homophobic bullying and teasing.  These kids felt that they had no other option, and that death was easier than dealing with what they were going through.

My heart aches for these kids and for their families, and for the kids who are dealing with this every day.  Kids can be horrible ... I remember my own struggles with bullying, and mine had nothing to do with something as deeply rooted as my sexual orientation and sense of who I was.

I feel that it is incredibly important to share this message.  Please take the time to watch and share the videos below.

The first is of Dan Savage and his husband, Terry, talking about their own struggles with bullying and figuring out their sexuality.  The message in this video is exactly as it's titled - It Gets Better.  Our kids - LGBTQ as well as heterosexual - need to know this.  The bullying ends ... life after high school is so much better, so much more fulfilling, and so much more fun than what they are going through now.  HANG ON, you can get through it.



This second video, recently posted by Ellen DeGeneres, talks about the crisis in teen bullying and asks us to join together to make it STOP.



Please share this post and especially these videos ... spread the word that this is happening and that we need to stop it.  Kids don't need to die in this senseless way, before they have a chance to really live.

- Candice