Newsworthy Sex! Let's talk about "sluts" ...

Okay, so if you're Canadian like me you have probably heard something about the recent, inappropriate and offensive comments made by a Toronto police officer while visiting York University in Toronto.  I'm referring to the comments stating that, to avoid being sexually assaulted (y'know, raped), women shouldn't dress like sluts.  Because *obviously* if a woman is raped, she's to blame (note the sarcasm!).

Out of the response to these comments (and the countless others like them), SlutWalk has been born.  If you're not familiar with SlutWalk, you can educate yourself here.

I haven't posted about this movement until now because I wanted to see where it would go and to further educate myself, before adding my voice to the chorus.  Rather than bombard you with my opinion on this issue (which you can probably gather on your own ... refer to the above sarcastic statement for insight), I'm going to point you onwards.  The blog I'm encouraging you to read, No Greater Male Supporter, is refreshing, insightful and well-written.  The particular post I've linked you to is an interesting examination of victim blaming, patriarchy and the way feminism is typically received (or rejected) in our society.  It's well worth reading!

Thank you to my dear friend Janet for sending it my way!

Enjoy!
Candice

How about that oral sex?

Blow jobs ... going down ... giving head ... muff diving ... eating out ... giving a BJ ... fellatio ... cunnilingus ... rimming ...

Call it what you like, but my question is -- does oral sex count as "having sex"?

I've had this discussion a few times in the past, and it always fascinates me.  It seems simple ... does oral-genital contact (aka oral sex, or any of the above names) count as "having sex"?  Some would answer with a resounding "yes!" while others may hesitate or say something along the lines of "not so much" (or a flat out "NO!").  So while you ponder your own opinion, let's look a little deeper ...

Is it sexual contact? Well, obviously.  Oral sex is, quite simply, mouth to penis / vagina / anus.  That seems pretty "sexual" to me ...

Is it intimate? This one is more of a personal opinion, but in my opinion ... yes, it is.  Whether you're giving or receiving, oral sex involves using your mouth and putting your face in some pretty intimate areas.

Are there risks? Indeed there are!  Herpes, syphilis, gonorrhea, HPV, hepatitis A and intestinal parasites can all be transmitted through oral sex.  Oh yeah, and there are documented cases of HIV being transmitted via oral sex as well.

Does it count as "cheating"? That one's entirely up to you and your partner ... but according to the research, most people would argue that yes, having oral sex with someone other than your partner is being unfaithful.

So ... is oral sex "having sex"?  In the early 1990's, about 40% of university students reported that yes, they would classify oral sex as having sex.  That number has dropped substantially -- 23.2% of Canadian university students classified oral sex as having sex, according to a 2010 study.  This study, and others like it, will soon be posted in Education Central -- Research.  Take a look, maybe you'll find something interesting!

What do YOU think?

Candice :)

And the penis nickname is ...

Ok folks, it was a tough call but I've determined the winner.  I'd like to thank everyone who sent in their submissions and showed their creativity in penile nicknames!  THANK YOU!

And the winner is ...

... custard launcher !!!

Congratulations, Fred!

A special thank you to Mike in Ohio who posted his names to my Open Salon blog -- "Big Jim and the twins" was a close runner up!  Also special thanks to Davis for your creativity, and especially for your poetry contribution.

Thank you everyone who read and enjoyed the posts -- stay tuned, I will be running more fun contests in the near future!

Candice :)

We've gone WAY beyond penis ...

Ok folks, the contest isn't over yet!  There is still time to submit your nicknames for penis (before midnight TONIGHT -- Friday April 15).  It's super easy, leave a comment on this blog post (or this one, or this other one) with your nicknames.  I'm looking for creativity, and I will choose the winner this weekend.

The winner will receive a mystery prize -- although I can promise you it is fun!  Stay tuned for the blog post announcing the winner!

To avoid repeats, I am posting the submissions I have received so far.  Think you've got something to add?  Leave your comment now!

Gonzo          Tool          The big Gun          Rocket launcher          Willy Mamouth          big daddy

the third leg          the elephant          snake          one eyed demon          spitter          big ben

Behemoth          cock          buddy          The profit          night stick          wood          steel

bazooka          big bamboo          trunk          custard launcher

heat-seeking moisture missile

one-eyed wonder weasel          trouser snake          wing dang doodle          love log

Thanks for your participation and enthusiasm, and good luck!

Candice :)

I promised you more sex ...

I informed you a few weeks ago that finishing school would mean more sex, and I am keeping my promise!  You may have noticed the recent influx of posts, but have you noticed the changes and additions to the website?  If not, now's your chance!

I have made a number of updates to the site and am working on developing more.  I thought about holding off on publishing them until I had everything ready, but let's face it -- I will always have more to add.  Besides, I am an excitable person, and I get excited about my business!  So, make sure you check out the Education Central page, which now features links to the articles I've written and posted.  At this point there are only two articles (Sex Education for Parents and LGBTTIQQ2S – What Do Those Words Mean?).  More articles are in the works, including one about educating individuals with intellectual disabilities.  Stay tuned!

The Resources page is revamped and features a descriptive list of many sexuality and sexual health resources.  As there are so many great websites out there, I'm asking YOU to contribute ... if you know of any great websites I might want to include in my resources (or just check out because they're awesome), please let me know!  Similarly, I’m always looking for new and interesting topics to write about (you may have noticed, I enjoy writing).  If you have an idea for what could be a great article or blog post, please send me a message with your suggestion.  I really appreciate receiving feedback. :)

Last - but definitely not least - you can keep up to date with Sex Ed Central by subscribing to our feed (found on the Blog page) or sending me a message requesting to be added to our newsletter.

As always, thank you for reading and I hope you find something interesting on my site.

Candice :)

Featuring Dan Savage ...

I have spoken briefly about Dan Savage in previous posts, but this post is entirely dedicated to this week's Savage Love column.  As someone who advocates for an open an honest dialogue around sexuality, I'm all for exploring what does and doesn't make a relationship work.  This includes talking about the idea of having a committed, nonmonogamous relationship (sometimes referred to as an "open relationship").

I've had this discussion with others before, and I'm sure it will come up again.  I believe that it is entirely possible to have a satisfying, loving, committed relationship without requiring sexual exclusivity.

I'm going to leave that one hang for a bit, and refer you to this week's Savage Love.  I'm warning you now, he uses language that would not be rated PG13.  As well, I cannot be held responsible for any offense taken from what is said in any of Dan's columns.

Savage Love: I want my MTV

Enjoy!

Candice :)

Let's get beyond "penis" ...

Ok folks, the competition is on ... who's got the most creative nickname for penis?

Submissions so far are AWESOME ...

custard launcher
heat-seeking moisture missile
one-eyed wonder weasel
trouser snake
wing dang doodle
love log

Think you can do better?  Prove it!  Get your creative nicknames to me by Friday (April 15) at midnight -- there is a prize involved!  You can submit them by emailing me or leaving a comment on this or the previous post.

Looking forward to your reply!
Candice :)

 

Let's all say "Penis" ...

Let's face it, talking about sex can be uncomfortable (for some, not so much for me!).  I am fortunate to be blessed with many friends and family members who support the (slightly!) out of the ordinary work that I do, and are open to talking about it.

One such conversation occurred yesterday, at the dinner table.  Yes, the word "penis" has definitely made an appearance at dinnertime (more than once!), and yesterday was a perfect example.  While answering a number of excellent questions from a prepubescent relative (who is very fortunate to have awesome parents who will talk to him about sex), the following question arose (no pun intended!):

"How many other names have you heard for 'penis'?"

Of course there are the usual ... cock, dong, schlong, weiner, dick ... but I want to know how creative you, my dear reader, can be!  So, let's hear it!  Leave a comment with your most creative penile nickname.  There may just be a prize involved! ;)

Looking forward to your response!

Candice :)



 

 

P.s. Yes, this is my cat, and my Woody.