Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Sex Ed Central -- 5000+ visitors!

It's hard to believe that it's been over a year since I decided to take the plunge and follow my dream to become a sexuality educator.  A lot has happened in this past year ...



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Spring 2010: My unique CYW placement, wherein I partnered with the AIDS Committee of Simcoe County and the Orillia Youth Centre to develop, deliver and evaluate a 10-week sex ed workshop for at-risk youth.  It was a great experience and definitely contributed to shaping my future goals!

Summer 2010: I continued to build this site, adding content and receiving tremendous support and encouragement.

Fall 2010: Entered the final year of the CYW program, trying to figure out what to do "next".  I joined the Board of Governors of the AIDS Committee of Simcoe County around this time.  I had some key networking experiences during this time as well - particularly at the OACYC (Ontario Association of Child and Youth Counsellors) conference in Orillia.  Additionally, I facilitated an incredible and unique workshop -- Radical Relationships and Ethical Promiscuity -- for OPIRG at the University of Guelph.

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Winter 2010/2011: Almost finished the CYW program, deciding where to move, and continuing to build up the site!  I was selected to receive the Rotary Club of Orillia Child and Youth Worker award for academic excellence, leadership and community involvement -- thank you!
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Spring/Early Summer 2011: Finished the CYW program, moved to Cambridge, linked up with Bartimaeus, attended the Guelph Sexuality Conference, as well as other conferences and workshop s.  Graduated from Georgian College, receiving both the Board of Governor's Medal Award and the Governor General's Academic Medal; employed and officially working as a CYW.

And NOW ... OVER 5000 visitors to Sex Ed Central!


Phew!  What a GREAT year, and it keeps getting better!

Thank you to all for your unending support and encouragement.

- Candice :)

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

Celebrating the success of an amazing woman!

I would like to officially congratulate a great friend and an amazing woman - Danielle Stein - on her passion and success in sexuality education and outreach.  I personally owe Dani a massive THANK YOU for her work co-coordinating NAKED (University of Guelph) while I was involved ... her passion and enthusiasm helped me to realize that I was not alone in dreaming of being a sexuality educator.

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Danielle has continued to do incredible work since our NAKED days.  She currently works for the AIDS Committee of York Region

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(ACYR) and is enthusiastically working to "help people live happier and more fulfilled lives one orgasm at a time.” (Sex Life Canada).

I recently stumbled across a few photos from our NAKED days ... although you can't see her, Dani is the one wearing the giant condom!  The other photo features myself and my best friend Julia, happily posing as lovely clitorises.  :)

Now a featured personality on Sex Life Canada, Danielle is quickly becoming an essential figure in sexuality education in Canada.  You can read all about here in this Sex Life Canada article: "Sex is her niche: Danielle Stein"

Congratulations Dani, I am so happy for you!!!

xox

Candice

New York approves same sex marriage!

I know, I'm behind the times ... this is already old news.  I've been swamped with life, a new job, graduation, etc but I wanted to send a quick "horray" out for this progressive movement towards marriage equality.  Go New York! New York is the sixth and most populous state to legalize gay marriage, and the celebrations can be heard loud and clear.  Hilary Clinton made a public statement in support of the move:

"So far as the United States is concerned and our foreign policy, and our values . . . gay rights are human rights and human rights are gay rights,"
(Vancouver Sun - emphasis added)


Gay couples all over New York state have begun to plan their weddings -- weddings they have only been able to dream about for years.



"I feel like a first-class citizen, a first-class New Yorker, for the first time in my life," said Jim Reda of Brooklyn, outside the Senate chamber with his partner of eight years. "We will be married by the end of the year. I can't believe I'm actually saying that."
(Yahoo News -
emphasis added)


Thank you, New York, for realizing that we are all humans deserving of respect and equality!


If you want to read more about this issue ...


New York's same-sex marriage law sets off waves of engagements


Clinton calls New York gay marriage vote "historic"

Same-sex marriage goes down to legislative wire in New York

 

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Sex ed workshops, partnerships and being a CYW ...

I've been holding off on this post for a few days, as I wanted to make sure things were relatively solid before I said anything.  Now, I can make a few announcements ......

 

1) I'm employed!  Yes, after two and a half months, I have a job, as a Child and Youth Worker (CYW), and I am thrilled!

2) I have officially developed a partnership with Bartimaeus Inc., where I will be offering specialized training workshops as well as child and adolescent group programs, all in the field of sexuality education.  I'm very excited about this opportunity -- stay tuned to my blog to hear all about it!

3) The Guelph Sexuality Conference was AWESOME.  I learned all kinds of great information and useful ideas.  Keep reading to hear more!

4) I am graduating next week!  The day is almost here, where I will become an official, full-fledged CYW.  Look out youth, here I come!

5) I have more exciting training and professional development coming up, including a workshop next week at the AIDS Committee of Guelph.  The topic is LGBT and Aging, and you can find more information here.

6) The workshops I'm developing right now are related to sexuality for individuals with developmental disabilities.  Do you have something to contribute?  I would love to hear from you!

I know this has been a short post, but I need to get back to my workshop development.  Stay tuned and thanks for your support!

Candice :)

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

Catholic Students are fighting for Gay-Straight Alliances ...

Despite progress made thus far, we have a long way to go in supporting LGBT youth and adults and there is much work to be done.  Today I read an article featured on Xtra.ca - Canada's Gay and Lesbian News, which explains the challenges faced by students at one Catholic high school in Mississauga.

Canadian Diversity FlagAccording to the article, student organizers of an anti-homophobia event (held June 3) have come up against a number of challenges from the Dufferin-Peel Catholic School Board.  For one, students are allowed to form "anti-bullying" groups, but Gay-Straight Alliances (GSAs) are not allowed.  "Even the name “can’t contain the word “gay.” GSAs are prohibited because “they lead to activism.”" (Xtra.ca).

Student organizers of the June 3 anti-homophobia event submitted a number of proposed resources, most of which were rejected by the Board.  Rejected materials included "the Ontario Secondary School Teachers Federation’s, Shout Out Against Homophobia, Biphobia, Transphobia and Heterosexism, a booklet designed to educate young people on issues relating to sexual orientation and gender identity, an AIDS Committee of Toronto flyer, and information about harassment in sports" (Xtra.ca).

It gets worse ... the Board also informed students that they were not allowed to display rainbows on any of their materials, including posters and resources.  So, the students got creative and hid the rainbows - by baking them inside cupcakes, which they then sold to raise money for charity.  The students wanted to donate the approximately $200 raised to Youthline - a Canadian toll-free support line for LGBT youth.  This was rejected as well, and students were told to donate the money to Covenant House, a Catholic homeless shelter.

The students, however, are standing up for diversity.  They are working to bring the issue to Pride in Toronto, in an effort to raise awareness and gain support.  Their plan is to make buttons, which they will hand out at Pride.  To do this, they need our support to raise $1,500.  "Marching in Pride is important to us because it will allow us to advocate for GSAs in Catholic Schools to a large audience,” she says. “Handing out buttons will be an excellent way to spread the message that GSAs are needed in Catholic schools." (Xtra.ca).

Please make a donation today to help these students advocate for GSAs in all Ontario secondary schools.


You can find these students on Facebook


To read the full article, click here: Xtra: Rainbows Banned at Mississauga Catholic School


Thank you for your support!


Candice :)

Upcoming: Guelph Sexuality Conference and AIDS Guelph Workshop

June is an exciting month to be a sexual health / sexuality educator in Southwestern Ontario.  I'm pleased to say that I will be attending this year's Annual Guelph Sexuality Conference next Monday, June 13.

Guelph Sexuality Conference 2011 Flyer


As well, I have registered to attend a day-long workshop entitled "LGBT and Aging" hosted by the AIDS Committee of Guelph on June 22.

Stay tuned to my blog, as I will be posting additional information about these events in the coming two weeks!

Candice :)

 

Monday, June 6, 2011

Birth Control Options - Part 2

Ok folks, so we’ve already talked about the hormonal methods of birth control -- the pill, the patch, the ring, the IUS and Depo.  If you missed out on the awesomeness of that post, you can check it out right here.

Now it’s time to move on to the non-hormonal methods.  Namely, the IUD, the sponge, Lea Contraceptive, the cervical cap, diaphragm, and spermicide.  Tubal ligation and vasectomy also fit into the “non-hormonal” category, but as they’re permanent, I’ll be talking about them separately.

Notice what’s missing?  Condoms!  I’ll also be covering the male and female condoms in their own post, because condoms are essential to safer sex and they deserve a full shout out!  Let’s get started ...

 

The Intra-Uterine Device (IUD):

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If you’ve read the previous post, you’ve got a bit of an understanding about how the IUS works.  The IUD is similar, but instead of a cylinder containing hormones, it has a thin copper wire wrapped around it.

As with the IUS, the IUD is inserted by a doctor into a woman’s uterus.  Once inserted, it can stay in place for up to five (5) years.  Your doctor will trim the strings of the IUD so that they hang down into the top of the vagina (they're generally not noticeable by male partners).  The copper wire changes the chemistry in the uterus, killing sperm and preventing implantation.  The IUD is extremely effective - 99% - and has no impact on later fertility once it’s removed.

The IUD may be a good option for women who are looking for long-term, worry-free birth control at a low cost (approx $85 in Ontario).  Like most birth control, the IUD does NOT protect against STIs, and it may even make it easier for a woman to contract an STI, so it’s essential to USE WITH CONDOMS.

 

The Contraceptive Sponge:

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Personally, I think that the sponge is pretty cool.  It’s a small, round, disposible sponge soaked in spermicide, which a woman inserts and places at her cervix.  The idea is to kill sperm before they can enter the cervix on their way to the uterus (and egg!).  Once inserted, the sponge protects for 12 hours, even if you have sex multiple times in this period.

That said, the sponge is NOT very effective on its own, so it needs to be used with condoms.  When both condoms and the sponge are used together properly, they are 98% effective.

As with other spermicidal methods, it’s important to know that some people are allergic to spermicide.  Also, some women find that using the sponge leaves them prone to yeast infections.  If you’re not sure if the sponge is a good choice for you, talk to your doctor about other birth control options.  If you want to check it out, the sponge comes in packs of 4 at most drugstores.

And don’t forget, the sponge itself does NOT protect against STIs, so make sure you’re using condoms too!

 

Lea Contraceptive:

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I have to admit, I’ve never actually seen one of these in person.  That said, they are out there and people are using them, so I’ve done some research to be able to educate you!

The Lea Contraceptive is a small device made of soft silicone.  A woman inserts it into the vagina, in front of the cervix, to prevent sperm from getting in.  On it’s own, it’s not all that effective -- about 87%.  With spermicide, it jumps up to 91.3% effectiveness, but that’s still a pretty high failure rate when you consider other contraceptive options.  On the plus side, the Lea Contraceptive is reusable, and can be left in place for up to 8 hours.

As with most birth control options, the Lea Contraceptive does NOT protect against STIs.  To improve your protection, always use condoms as well.

 

Cervical Cap:

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I have one of these in my sex ed kit, and they’re pretty neat.  The cervical cap is just that - a small, flexible cap.  Made of silicone, the cervical cap fits against (thereby covering) the cervix, preventing sperm from entering the cervix.  To increase effectiveness, the cap needs to be filled with spermicide before it is inserted.

Some women like the cap because it offers them privacy and control.  Because the cervical cap needs to fit properly, a doctor needs to determine what size of cap you need before you purchase it.

Because of the variation in fit, effectiveness can also vary quite a bit. It’s also much more effective in women who have not given birth.  Statistically speaking:

In women who have NOT given birth before: If the cap fits you well and you insert it properly every time you have sex, the failure rate of the cervical cap is about 9% (meaning that if 100 women use the cap perfectly for a year, 9 of them are likely to get pregnant).  That said, nobody is perfect, and “typical use” (meaning how most people will use the cap) failure is 20% (so 20 of those 100 women will become pregnant over the course of a year).

In women who HAVE given birth: the failure rate is much higher.  Perfect use still has a failure rate of 26%, and typical use fails 40% of the time.  Yikes!

It’s crucial to use condoms with the cap, both because of the high failure rate and because it does NOT protect against STIs.

 

Diaphragm

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Even if you’ve never seen one, you may have heard of the Diaphragm before now.  In fact, a relative of the modern diaphragm has been around since at least the mid-1800s, although they’ve certainly made a few improvements along the way!

The diaphragm is a thin, dome-shaped latex cap used to cover the entrance to the cervix.  In order to be effective, the diaphragm must be filled with cream or foam spermicide before it is inserted.  The diaphragm offers privacy and control to women, who insert it prior to having intercourse.  That said, the failure rate is higher than some other methods of contraception (but lower than the cervical cap) -- at about 4-8%.

Women who choose the diaphragm may find it difficult to insert at first or discover that it doesn’t fit them properly.  It’s essential to use condoms with the diaphragm, as it DOES NOT protect against STIs. As well, some women may develop urinary tract infections (UTIs) while using it.

 

Spermicide

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While spermicide used to be frequently recommended, it's taken more of a back seat in recent years as researchers have learned more about it.  That said, some individuals and couples still choose it as a contraceptive option and it’s certainly worth discussing.

Spermicide is composed of a chemical called nonoxynol-9 and is available in the form of cream (for diaphragms), gels, foam, film or suppository.  Once inserted into the vagina (in front of the cervix), spermicide destroys sperm on contact.  Alone, their effectiveness is quite limited (6-21% failure rate) and spermicide should always be used in conjunction with another method of contraception (ideally a condom).

Although spermicide offers some protection from bacterial infections, it does NOT offer protection from STIs overall.  In fact, spermicide alone may increase the risk of HIV infection, so it’s essential to use it with a condom for protection from STIs.  The reason for this potential risk increase is that spermicide may irritate the vagina, penis and anus, leaving those areas more vulnerable to infection.  Spermicide can also be messy, and must be inserted shortly before sex, as it’s only effective for an hour.

 

Now that we've covered the hormonal methods of birth control and most of the non-hormonal methods, it's time to get ready for Birth Control Options - Part 3 -- CONDOMS!

Talking about SEX is so much fun!

Last night I had an opportunity to get back into what I love most, and facilitate a workshop!  Yeah!  Thanks to my cousin, Steph, for telling her fellow staff about her "Sexpert" cousin, and getting me an "in"!  It also helps that, as a Child and Youth Worker (CYW), I love working and interacting with teens.  Go CYW!  :)

Last night's session, with a dozen or so early/mid teen girls, was fun, exciting, entertaining and -- as always -- a great learning experience for me.  The girls were excited to talk, ask questions and get a first-hand look at many of the contraceptive options available to them.  I was equally (perhaps more!) excited to share my knowledge and engage them in discussion.  Woody made his usual appearance for an interactive condom demonstration, inviting laughter and jokes, as well as a few size-comparisons (sorry Woody, it seems you don't always measure up!).  End the evening with delicious cake (if you know me, you know I definitely enjoy cake!) and we've got a pretty awesome-tastic evening!

If Sex Ed Centralyou or someone you know may be interested in booking a workshop, pass this along or contact me!

Enjoy the sunshine!

Candice :)

Wednesday, June 1, 2011

Heteronormativity

Heteronormativity ... it's a big word, and it isn't even listed in my wordpress dictionary, even though it's been around since 1991.  You may have heard of it, you may not have ... if you take a close look you can probably figure out what it means.  Let's break it down:

Hetero: as in heterosexual.  Y'know, Man + Woman.

Normativity: as in what's viewed as normal.  Y'know ... Man + Woman = "Normal"

Put more eloquently:

"Heteronormativity is any of a set of lifestyle norms that hold that people fall into distinct and complementary genders (man and woman) with natural roles in life. It also holds that heterosexuality is the normal sexual orientation, and states that sexual and marital relations are most (or only) fitting between a man and a woman. Consequently, a "heteronormative" view is one that involves alignment of biological sex, sexuality, gender identity, and gender roles." (Wikipedia)


Simply put, "heteronormativity" explains the way we straight people* assume that the way we are is "normal" and everyone else is not normal.  It helps us to paint a pretty little picture of the world, dividing it along lines of "him" and "her".  It tells us when we're behaving as expected, and it certainly helps us to raise the alarm when someone isn't following the rules.


[Note: This reference is to "straight people" *whose biological sex (male or female) + sexual orientation (heterosexual) + gender identity (man or woman) + gender roles (behaviour, clothing, preferences, etc as dictated by society) all line up into a pretty picture of congruence.]




So, what happens when someone doesn't follow the rules?  I can't tell you from first hand experience (I'm one of those straight people with the pretty picture of congruence).  However, I have many LGBT friends, and I know that for many of them, just being themselves in our heteronormative world is a challenge.  The male/female/him/her dichotomy rules our world.  Just look at the frenzy of attention received by a Toronto family who have chosen to withhold the gender of their youngest child, and raise the child as a "genderless" individual rather than as a "him" or a "her".  If you haven't heard about Storm, you can read a well-written article about the baby here.

The response to Storm has been as varied as the individuals reading the article.  Some are shocked and upset: “Never has an article left me so upset. These parents are turning their children into a bizarre lab experiment,” (ParentCentral.ca).  Others are embracing the family's efforts as a refreshing and progressive step towards acceptance:

“To the people who question it as a social experiment, I say that breaking social norms is not synonymous with bad parenting. Many modern practices were frowned upon as a social experiment once,” RyderJH commented on thestar.com, pointing to interracial friendships and teaching girls to read and have career ambitions as examples.
(Emphasis added, ParentCentral.ca)


So, what do you think?  Is this family on to something, taking a chance at raising their child in a progressive way, giving the child an opportunity to develop as an individual rather than a socially constructed "man" or "woman"?  Or are they setting their child(ren) up for countless problems down the road?


Leave your comments below, or send me a message.  I look forward to hearing from you!


- Candice :)






What's the research say? Contraceptives!

I read an interesting excerpt from an upcoming article in the journal "Perspectives on Sexual and Reproductive Health".  I'll skip the technical details (you can click through to the study info below) and summarize what they've said:

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- in approximately 75% of relationships, the couple had used some sort of contraceptive the last time they had sex

- the longer and more intimate the relationship, the more likely the couple was to shift from barrier methods (i.e. condoms) to hormonal methods (such as the pill, patch, ring, IUS)

- overall contraceptive use doesn't decline in longer relationships; it shifts from one type (barrier) to another (hormonal) ... this suggests more of a focus on pregnancy rather than STIs in long-term relationships

 

If you're interested and would like to read more about this study, here's the link (FYI, the full article is available only through paid subscription):

Contraceptive Method Choice Shifts with Relationship Duration, Commitment Level