Friday, December 30, 2011

Teens having group sex, you say?

Thank you, FruitTaster, for bringing both of these articles to my attention!
 
Let's be honest ... the media is full of sensationalized articles written to shock us and make us think that things are much worse than they really are. What I'm about to share with you is a great example of this. The following article was posted on Canoe.ca on December 16, 2011.

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Many teen girls have had group sex: Study

QMI Agency

Friday, December 16, 2011, 12:39 PM

One in 13 teenage girls in the U.S. have had group sex, a new study has found.

Researchers from Boston University School of Public Health also found those girls were more likely to have been exposed to porn and childhood sexual abuse than girls who had not participated in group sex.

The researchers surveyed 328 girls in the Boston area. The girls were asked about sexual partners and experiences. Of those who said they'd had group sex, more than half reported being pressured to do so, while 45% reported a male participant didn't wear a condom.

As well, 54% were younger than 16 at the time of the group sex.

"Group sex among youth is an important public health topic that has received very little attention to date," researcher Emily Rothman said in a release about the study. "It's time for parents, pediatricians, federal agencies, and community-based organizations to sit up, pay attention, and take notice: Group sex is happening, and we need to be prepared to address it."

The study was published in the Journal of Urban Health: Bulletin of the New York Academy of Medicine.

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Really? Is that all there is to this study? Before your teen-group-sex alarm bells start going off, you should read this article by Dr. Petra Boynton. She does an excellent job of reviewing the study and analyzing the results for us. Thank you, Dr. Petra!

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Teenagers and group sex: a cause for concern?

By Dr Petra | Published: 21 December, 2011

Last week saw the publication of a paper Multi-person Sex among a Sample of Adolescent Female Urban Health Clinic Patients in the Journal of Urban Health (sadly not open access). This tackled the issue of young people having Multiple Sexual Partners (MSPs) and in particular raised concerns over coercive sexual practices.

Predictably the media reported on this story with scary headlines like:
Teen girls who engage in group sex are often coerced, study says – NY Daily
Group sex is the latest ‘trend’ for teenage girls, disturbing report reveals – Daily Mail (The research excited upset the Mail so much they ran coverage of it twice)
Teens as young as 14 engaging in group sex, study finds – ABC News
‘Sexting’ is related to teen group sex trend, says study – New Jersey News Room (the study doesn’t say this at all, in fact recent research suggests the phenomena of teen ‘sexting’ is over exaggerated).

While we sadly are used to the mainstream media sensationalising sex research (particularly on young people), other sex blogs and medical news outlets covering this study have been equally remiss at reading the original research and critiquing it. Which is depressing.

So let’s do the job the mainstream media should have done. Let’s critically appraise the research and see if we do need to worry about MSPs and young people.

First, a quick disclaimer. Researching young people’s sexual experiences is important. Such work should focus on their needs, report faithfully any adverse issues they may be at risk from, and take their mental and physical wellbeing seriously. Research on teens should always involve young people at all levels and avoid being a top-down process where adults define teenagers’ experiences. In critiquing this research I am not suggesting young people are not experiencing problems within their relationships. I am also not saying the researchers were anything other than well intentioned.

Strengths of the research

The paper’s plus points are that it tackles a topical issue. While group sex among young people is (as this paper acknowledges) pretty unusual, it is something that has gained media interest over the past few years. So trying to collect any data about this phenomenon is important to reassure and also to direct sex education and public health programmes. The researchers seem to have developed the study over time, basing the survey they used on a series of in-depth qualitative interviews. The paper does acknowledge early on that multiple sexual partner experiences may be consensual and non consensual (more on this in a bit).

Sampling and sample size

Participants were recruited from a youth sexual health clinic. This is not unreasonable at all. It’s an excellent place to find out about young people’s sexual health. But it does mean those going there may be in need of help or support so might not be representative of teens generally.

The authors acknowledge this but I suspect that fact will pass a lot of journalists by when they report this. Media focus, I imagine, will be on all teens, rather than a subset of teens.

The paper tells us researchers were aware of 1224 female clients at the youth clinics, with 747 identified suitable for the study. Why the other clients attending the clinic weren’t suitable for the study is not explained. That, I think, is a problem. Information about participants who were unsuitable for the study, or who refused to participate (and why) should have been clarified just to help us interpret this data. I’m surprised reviewers didn’t ask for it to be included in the demographics table as is standard practice. Of the 747 clients identified, 495 (65%) agreed to take part. A 65% response rate on a sensitive topic is not a problem, but it does reduce the number of people responding further, which in turn affects how representative the sample is.

It is not declared whether the participants were Cis or Trans Women. This would have been helpful to disclose.

Table 1 in the paper provides details of 328 participants. I’m unsure if these were the final sample that was used in the study/analysis. Regardless of all this we learn right at the end of the paper only 24 of those who completed the survey had had a Multiple Sexual Partner experience. And of those, their analysis indicates, 35% said the experience was consensual.

Does this represent a major new trend in youth behaviour?

No. The paper reports of the patients attending the youth clinic very few of them had experienced non consensual group sex. It does not mean we should not be very concerned about these young people or others like them. But it does mean journalists covering this story should put this into context. The study is not showing a major trend in teen girls being forced to have group sex. It is saying non consensual group sexual activity among teens does not seem to happen often, but when it does it is highly distressing and increases the risk of psychological and physical ill health.

My worry is the media coverage of this will not read the original paper and will suggest there is an outbreak of teen sex parties happening regularly, that young girls are forced to participate in. The study did not find this and nor has it identified a major public health problem. But I doubt that will be made clear. This in turn will worry parents, mislead teachers and healthcare professionals, and probably lead to slut shaming of young women (as this kind of coverage invariably does). All the while ignoring the role of boys at best, or presenting them as gang rapists at worst. None of which is directly helpful to the needs of young people.

Problems with phrasing and terminology

The paper seems to use terms like ‘sex parties’, ‘multiple sexual partners’ and ‘gang rape’ interchangeably in places. This is confusing for the reader but I imagine also for participants in the study. This is recognised as a limitation later in the paper where the authors talk about participants who’ve experienced gang rape not necessarily seeing what they experienced as a multiple sexual partner act.

The focus of the study appears to be on heterosexual teens, although this is not really clarified.

The age range of 14-20 is important as this is a wide age range in terms of young people. While some 14 year olds may be mature and some 20 year olds immature, in general the needs and experiences of those who are in the younger age group in this study will be very different from older participants. Any of these participants could be exploited, abuse has no age barrier. However, older teens/young adults may well be better able to consensually engage in sexual behaviours younger teens cannot. This was not explored in enough detail in this paper.

The main drawback with the study, to me, is the question used to identify if participants had engaged in Multiple Partner Sex. It asked:
“Have you ever had sex (vaginal, oral, or anal) with more than one person at the same time or with more than one person at the same place? (This might be called group sex, a threesome, an orgy, or pulling a train).”

The paper doesn’t clearly explain how participants were invited to answer this question, although does suggest it was via a yes/no response (or similar). Imagine I said ‘yes’ to this question. What am I saying ‘yes’ to? That I had vaginal, oral or anal sex? The wording of this question means there’s no way of differentiating between participants who had all of these experiences and those who had one of them.

There is also no way of identifying how often participants had engaged in these various activities and whether they experienced them positively or negatively. It could be completely possible for a participant to have experienced oral sex positively but vaginal sex negatively (or vice versa). But the question phrasing does not allow for this to be explored. It also doesn’t allow participants to indicate if they were giving or receiving these sexual activities (or both).

Once you get past this confusion participants are still being asked about these sexual activities AND whether they’ve done them with more than one person. How do you answer if you’ve engaged in said activities but with only one person? The question doesn’t allow for this.

Participants could also easily be confused by a question that doesn’t make clear if the mention of ‘sex’ here refers to penetrative sex (and if so is it via a penis, finger or sex toy) or oral sex. That is important as we know from sex research unless you are very specific about what you’re asking about you’ve no real idea what participants are reporting.

The question is also confusing a group sex act (i.e. having sex with more than one person at a time) with multiple partner sex over a period of time (i.e. sleeping with more than one person in a day, evening etc). In fact this becomes more confusing as these behaviours are asked as if they’re the same thing but with no time period specified. Most of us who’ve had more than one partner could easily answer ‘yes’ to the question, assuming you have been intimate with different partners on different occasions in your home.

Deconstructing this question may seem like nit picking but in fact is very important when we are designing surveys. Unless our questions are meticulously phrased we have no real idea what participants are responding to. This in turn makes a difference to the conclusions and recommendations we can make.

Elsewhere in the paper the researchers conflate group sex and an orgy (which usually involves several people) with a threesome. They also don’t clarify who might be participating in these activities. The assumption seems to be that it’s a girl and all boys. But it could well be all girls or a mix of girls and boys.

Does ‘pornography’ and ‘sexually explicit’ mean the same thing?

Participants were also asked
“Many people come into contact with pornographic, x rated, or other sexually explicit material. How many times in the past 30 days have you viewed pornographic, x rated, or other sexually explicit material?”

This is an interesting but again problematic question. What do the researchers mean by ‘pornographic’ or ‘sexually explicit material’? Are they the same thing? Are they including explicit mainstream media such as music videos or magazine articles talking about sexual positions? That could be considered sexually explicit but not necessarily pornographic. Is this a particularly accessible question to ask a young person? Asking how often they’ve viewed such material also isn’t clear. Do they mean how often someone has watched pornography/sexually explicit material and masturbated? Simply seen it in passing? Or perhaps laughed at it with friends (as is very common among teens)? Was it watched alone or with a partner? What did it feature?

This information IS important because the researchers did find an association with multiple sexual partners and reported porn use, but it isn’t clear what relationship the young women in the study really had with porn. In order to better educate women about issues around porn we need to know more about what they are watching and how they feel about it. It is worth noting if participants said anything other than ‘no times’ they classed this as having viewed porn. So that means someone might have seen porn once in passing and be categorised in the same way as someone who viewed porn regularly and was aroused by it and someone who was forced to watch porn occasionally but against their will.

Another question asked
“Has anyone ever insisted (without using force or threats) that you do sexual things they saw in pornographic or x-rated magazines, websites, or movies when you did not want to?”

This is not an unreasonable question, but it is not necessarily something that’s easy for a teen woman to answer. For example they may well have been coerced to do something they did not want to do, but unless they asked the person coercing them if they had seen this in porn they would not necessarily know for sure this was the case. They may have a good instinct they were being asked to perform something inspired by pornography, but they wouldn’t know for sure – and would not be in any position to ask if they felt threatened.

Given the age of participants it may be someone did coerce them to do something they didn’t like but had not got the idea for this from porn. They may have got the idea from a sex tips feature in mainstream magazines like Cosmopolitan or Men’s Health, or from their peers, or from a TV show. Much of the mainstream media talks about anal sex, threesomes, oral sex etc so this could have just as easily informed the coercive behaviour.

I would have liked to see more focus on the nature of the coercive behaviour, why participants felt this was linked to porn, and if it wasn’t linked to porn where they felt the driving force behind the coercion came from. I say this not to dispute porn may play a part, but to identify exactly what is driving coercive behaviour as if it’s features in mainstream magazines or peer pressure we need to tackle this just as urgently as any perceived threat from porn.

The focus here seems to present young women’s relationship with porn as something that is done to them by young men. Young men are presented as the consumers of porn and use it to get ideas to coerce young women into doing things they don’t want. This does not explore where young women may like or dislike porn, or young men having a critical view of porn. It does not include young people who have little or no exposure to porn. It presents young women as passive, as victims. And as heterosexual. This is often taken up by the media who use debates on sexualisation or pornification to demonise or ignore young men and victimise and slut shame young women. In both cases we find it becomes a situation where adults (either academics, medics or journalists) speak for young people.

Multiple Sexual Partners – a problem in itself?

In their reporting of the results the authors say:
“While there may be a subset of girls who initiate or make self-actualized decisions about MPS participation during adolescence, it is important to consider whether social norms that encourage hypersexuality may contribute to expectations about sexual activity that make it very challenging for adolescents to resist engaging in MPS, even though they would not perceive their MPS participation as nonconsensual. The strong association between exposure to pornography, having been forced to do things that their sex partner saw in pornography, and MPS suggests that pornography may have influenced directly the sexual experiences of the girls in this sample, as has been found elsewhere. Importantly, even if participation in MPS is voluntary for some adolescents, it is crucial to know how this early experience shapes their sexual behavior trajectory and affects their lifetime risk for negative sexual, reproductive, and other health risk behaviors”.

This statement concerned me for three reasons. Firstly it suggests a kind of false consciousness idea that no young woman could ever really consent to a MSP experience. This is disingenuous to the participants in this study who stated they had willingly enjoyed a MSP. I suspect it betrays more of the researchers own values about MSPs.

Secondly it implies that even if a young woman does consent to a MSP this will be because pornography has informed her choice. Yet we know from the way they asked about porn they don’t really have strong enough data to make this conclusion. It would have been interesting to explore if mainstream media might have influenced their choice as well, but not to have decided for participants that they didn’t really know their own minds.

Thirdly there is the implication that having a MSP as a young person will inevitably lead to problems in future relationships. That seems like a leap beyond the data and also I suspect unfair to those who consensually, as adults, explore non monogamous relationships. Moreover we know many people who never have MSPs as young people (or adults) have problems in their relationships as adults. So to make this claim really requires more than a small sample of 24 participants who were asked some confusing questions. The researchers do say this ought to be followed up in future research and I don’t disagree there, but I hope they would be less judgemental and aware of sexual diversity in doing so.

Where are the experiences of young men?

There is no focus on young men in this paper and I think any study that is tackling coercion in heterosexual youth (as this paper appears to be doing) really needs to also study young men. The assumption is they are coercing young women, but are young men also feeling coerced in relationships? Is the pressure of masculinity leading to risky sexual behaviours or are they acting respectfully with their partners? Are the experiences of young gay or bi men different from their heterosexual peers? How do young men feel about being portrayed as sexually coercive? Are there issues around communication and consent we need to focus on with young men and women – and how should we be addressing this issue?

I worry media coverage will report this as though young men have been included or present young men as predators, when again the number of participants reporting negative experiences from forced group sex or pornography was low.

Should this paper have been published?

I critically appraised this paper, but does not mean I think it should be ignored. Had I been asked to review it for publication I would have asked for major revisions (based on the comments above). I find many Public Health studies on youth sexual behaviour (and sexual behaviour in adults) are well intentioned but often problematic due to heteronormative approaches. In this case this can be seen with the focus on heterosexual activity and underlying subtext that group sexual activity is never truly consensual and non monogamous relationships are not presented positively. This can alienate or pathologize many people inadvertently, while trying to help another group of people. A better awareness of thinking around diverse sexualities would help ensure generalisations about group sex among consenting adults are not pathologised while trying to tackle gang rape of teens.

I hope coverage of this will be responsible but fear it will not. I suspect it will be further used to demonise young people and worry the public. In turn ignoring the fact most young people are not engaging in group sex or coercive behaviour. In fact that most aren’t having sex at all. They may well have questions and worries about sex, but these may not be addressed while we focus on more sensational topics.

Creating a moral panic in which we shout a lot about the behaviour of young people but do very little to actually help them. And in cases where research is poor or ambiguous it may direct our efforts to help young people in the wrong direction.

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Once again, thank you FruitTaster.

You can read this and other articles by Dr. Petra on her website.

Thursday, December 29, 2011

Sex Ed Central in the Georgian View



The 2011/2012 issue of Georgian View has been released, and I'm a featured alumnus! If you're interested in checking it out, you can view the PDF version here: Georgian View 2011/2012

Georgian View is Georgian College's annual Alumni magazine. The magazine features alumni from various Georgian campuses who stand out from the crowd in one way or another. Check out what my fellow alumni are doing, and feel free to spread the good news! I'm on page 12 - "Let's Talk About Sex"!!

Thanks for your support!
Candice :)

Wednesday, December 14, 2011

Are you HIV-IGNORANT?

Thank you, Juanita, for sharing this with me on Facebook.

So many of us think that we can ignore the reality of HIV, but that's just plain ignorance.

HIV-ignorance is extremely common, and completely unnecessary. Fight it with these 3 easy steps ...

1. Watch this video.

2. Educate yourself.

3. Talk to others about HIV.

 

Have you been tested for HIV?


 


HIV: If there's a will... from stephen st laurent on Vimeo.


- Candice

Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Savage Says - The Monogamish Closet

Nonmongamy - aka monogamish in Dan Savage lingo - is something I've mentioned a few times. This letter was recently posted as the "Letter of the Day" on the Savage Love iPhone app, and it fits nicely with the whole sex-positive vibe we've got going on here at Sex Ed Central.

Below the letter you will find the initial call-out posted by Dan on Savage Love.

Enjoy!

The Monogamish Closet


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My husband and I are the pillars of society; we both work and pay taxes, we have two lovely children, we are an active part of our church community, I brought my kids to sing carols for charity this week and we host the rest of the family for Christmas. According to many of our friends, we are unusually happily married.But we are not monogamous.

At the moment I have two more-or-less regular lovers; one a friend I sometimes sleep with, the other a sexy model who picked me up at the gym. Most of our friends and family would be absolutely horrified if they found out. It has brought us closer, we laugh more, we communicate better, appreciate each other more and have more and better sex with each other than we did before. We have also (surprisingly) made friends with our lovers, something we didn't expect.

It feels like having taken Morpheus' blue pill in the Matrix or having seen how the world REALLY works but not being able to talk openly about it. If others knew how unnecessary and oppressive the current "monogamy is the only way if you love someone" mantra is, the world would be a better place. I accept other people's choices and understand that my way of living and loving doesn't work for everyone, but I wish that I could be more open without risking my career and some close personal relationships. I hope that some time in the future, a non-monogamous lifestyle will be more accepted, and I certainly hope our kids will grow up in a world with fewer hang-ups with regards to sex. But for now, we're in the closet.

Friends And Lovers And Spouses


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Dan's Message ...


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Wondering why today's letter-of-the-day isn't a question? FALAS's letter comes in response to a call in this week's "Savage Love":


Yes, yes: Every couple you know who's ever had a three-way or okayed a fling wound up divorced. And that may be true—of the couples whose three-ways and flings you know about. You know lots of couples who've had three-ways and flings who aren't divorced, but you don't know you know them. Most married couples want to be perceived as monogamous even—especially!—when they're not. So your friends who aren't divorcing as the result of a disastrous fling, affair, swinging experience, three-way, etc., aren't going to tell you about all the successful flings, affairs, etc., they've enjoyed.... ARE YOU MARRIED? Have you had successful flings, affairs, swinging experiences, and three-ways that your friends and family members will never know about? Send me an e-mail, share your story, and I'll publish it.

Married and monogamish and not out? Share your story - mail@savagelove.net.

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Friday, December 9, 2011

Sexy Research: Declines in US Teen Births

This information arrived in my inbox from the Guttmacher Institute. This is great news for the teen pregnancy rate in the US! Note: emphasis added by me.

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NEW GOVERNMENT DATA FINDS SHARP DECLINE IN TEEN BIRTHS


 

Increased Contraceptive Use and Shifts to
More Effective Contraceptive Methods
Behind this Encouraging Trend
 

The U.S. teen birth rate declined 9% between 2009 and 2010 to a record low of 34 births per 1,000 teens aged 15–19. This marks the third straight year in which birth rates declined for this age-group, according to new data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s (CDC) National Center for Health Statistics. Young adults saw similar declines in birthrates, with a 6% decline from 2009 to 2010 among women in their early twenties. Meanwhile, newly released 2008 abortion data from the CDC show that the decline in births is accompanied by a decline in abortions, suggesting that the overall teen pregnancy rate is going down, as well.


This good news can be linked almost exclusively to improvements in teens’ contraceptive use, according to new data from another major government study, the CDC’s National Survey of Family Growth (NSFG). The NSFG interviewed a nationally-representative sample of teens from June 2006 to June 2008, and again from July 2008 to July 2010. Comparing reports between these two time periods shows there was no significant change in the overall proportion of females aged 15–19 who were sexually experienced or engaging in sexual activity. There was, however, a dramatic shift in teen contraceptive use. This encouraging news comes at a time when attacks on contraception are increasing in the political arena.

Guttmacher researchers have found an increase both in teens’ use of any contraceptive method at all and in their use of highly effective methods or dual methods. Specifically, hormonal contraceptives were used by 37% of sexually active teens in 2006–2008 and by 47% in 2008–2010, while use of long-acting reversible contraceptive methods like the IUD increased from 1.4% to 4.4%. Dual method use—the use of condoms and hormonal methods simultaneously—also increased from 16% to 23%. Additionally, fewer teens reported that they are trying to become pregnant than was the case in years past. In sum, teens are making the decision to be more effective contraceptive users, and their actions appear to be paying off in lower birth rates. Similarly, young women aged 20–24, a group that also experienced substantial declines in birthrates, also increased their use of contraception at last sex.

There are currently no direct data available to tell us why teens are changing their contraceptive practices. However, anecdotal reports indicate that recent changes in medical recommendations that allow teens and young adults to access hormonal contraceptives without a pelvic exam or Pap test have made it easier for them to start—and continue—using these methods. Additionally, there has been a change in the medical community’s thinking around the use of IUDs; in the past, these long-acting methods were often only recommended for women who had already had children, but there is no medical justification for this limitation, and the method is now seen as a “first-line” option for teens who are sexually active and want to delay childbearing for several years. The increase in dual method use suggests a growing commitment among teens to protect themselves against both unintended pregnancy and STIs. All of these changes are occurring in the context of an economic recession, which may have increased teens’ motivation to protect themselves against unwanted childbearing.

Click here for more information on:

Teen pregnancy in the United States

Facts on Teens’ Sexual and Reproductive Health

Facts on Teens’ Sources of Information About Sex

The Federal teen pregnancy prevention initiative

Unintended pregnancy among teens


The Guttmacher Institute works to advance sexual and reproductive health in the United States and worldwide through an interrelated program of social science research, policy analysis and public education designed to generate new ideas, encourage enlightened public debate and promote sound policy and program development. Learn more at Guttmacher.org.

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Wednesday, December 7, 2011

A Never-Ending Battle: Religion vs Sexual Orientation

The battle rages on ... Dalton McGuinty's Liberal Government has introduced anti-bullying legislation, which includes having Gay-Straight Alliances in publicly funded Catholic schools. This legislation is partly in response to the spike in teen suicides related to bullying - more specifically, LGBTQ teens who have been bullied to the point of suicide.

The response to this legislation has, of course, been dramatic. As quoted in an article in The Star:

Some Christian and Jewish groups are denouncing Premier Dalton McGuinty’s anti-bullying legislation, calling it a front for his “radical sex education” agenda.
 
The Institute for Canadian Values held a news conference Tuesday, condemning the premier for a section of the new anti-bullying legislation that allows for all publicly funded school boards to “host gay clubs.”
 

Excuse me? Since when have GSA's (Gay-Straight Alliances) become "gay clubs"? Give it a rest, people! The "Institute for Canadian Values" sure doesn't represent MY Canadian values!


I can only hope that McGuinty stands his ground on this one, unlike when he folded on the proposed physical and health education curriculum changes in 2010.


For your reading pleasure, I've posted the entire article from The Star below. Enjoy!

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Note: Emphasis added by me

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Anti-bullying bill a front for ‘sex ed’ agenda, groups say


By: Tanya Talaga

A church versus state battle is erupting at Queen’s Park.

Some Christian and Jewish groups are denouncing Premier Dalton McGuinty’s anti-bullying legislation, calling it a front for his “radical sex education” agenda.

The Institute for Canadian Values held a news conference Tuesday, condemning the premier for a section of the new anti-bullying legislation that allows for all publicly funded school boards to “host gay clubs.”

The Institute’s president is Dr. Charles McVety, a politically savvy evangelist who was against proposed changes to the provincial physical health and education curriculum last year. Those changes included discussing same-sex couples with Grade 3 students.

“We don’t understand why this keeps coming back,” McVety said.

But speaking in Windsor, McGuinty denounced his critics by strongly saying Catholic schools “will have gay-straight alliances.”

“Are there gay children attending Catholic schools in Ontario? Yes. Are there gay teachers teaching in Catholic schools in Ontario? Yes,” McGuinty told reporters.

“The purpose of our accepting schools act is to send a strong signal to all Ontarians, of all faiths and backgrounds, all places of origin, culture, ethnicities, in our province and our publicly funded schools — schools will be warm and accepting of all our children, regardless of their sexual orientation as well.”

The anti-bullying legislation, created after recent high-profile youth suicides including that of Ottawa teen Jamie Hubley, was introduced by the Liberals last week. The 15-year-old said he was bullied due to his sexual orientation.

“I fully expect Catholic kids will use the word ‘gay,’ ” said McGuinty. “I fully expect Catholic teachers will use the word ‘gay’ and as a Catholic premier in Ontario, I am going to talk about gay kids.”

Progressive Conservative MPP Frank Klees sponsored the press conference at Queen’s Park and while a handful of Tory MPPs were in attendance, PC Leader Tim Hudak distanced himself from McVety’s views.

“There should be, in all our public schools, some committee to help students who are being bullied for sexual orientation — also for disability, race, religious background, what have you,” he said, adding that includes Catholic schools.

But there is a time and place for everything, said Rondo Thomas, of the Toronto-based Evangelical Association, but there is no “time and place” in an 8-year-old’s mind to try to make them conceptualize something beyond “tying their shoes.”

“The anti-bullying legislation that Mr. McGuinty is proposing constitutes a violation of our religious freedoms that are guaranteed by the Charter of Rights and further to that, it violates the common law of separation of church and state,” he said.

The backlash to introducing this bill could be “quite severe,” he said.

Thomas even evoked the premier’s mother into the mix. “The premier’s mother said to him, ‘Dalton, I didn’t raise you this way,’ ” he said.

However, the premier’s office later told the Star they had no idea what Thomas was talking about.

The premier is misguided on the anti-bullying legislation and it really is an attack on faith-based schools, said Jack Fonseca of the Campaign Life Coalition. Mendel Kaplan, of the Council of Orthodox Rabbis and one of the religious leaders holding the press conference, agreed.

Fonseca accused McGuinty of trying to force Catholic schools to act against the wishes of the bishops. “That is a violation of Catholic rights in Ontario,” he said.

Kaplan said he believes “the legislation encroaches on our religious freedoms.”

Fonseca also attacked McGuinty’s faith, calling him a convenient Catholic during election time when he needs votes.

“Dalton McGuinty is unfortunately not a great Catholic on the moral issues. He supports abortion on demand, taxpayer funding of abortion and he supports gay marriage,” Fonseca said.

But the Liberals shot back at the institute during question period.

There is nothing “radical” making sure every student has the tools to succeed in school, said Education Minister Laurel Broten.

“The official Opposition needs to be clear where they stand — there is no room for division.”

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I'd love to hear your thoughts! Leave a comment below!

- Candice :)

I'm still here ...

It's been almost a month since my last post -- how time flies! I apologize to any disappointed regulars, and I will work hard at lining up some great content for you over the coming weeks.

Before I get to that -- an announcement!

I've been sitting on this one for a few weeks, but it's time to spread the word. I have a new job, and will be starting on Monday with the Waterloo Region District School Board (WRDSB). It's a 1-year maternity leave contract - a full-time CYW position. I am very excited, a little bit nervous, and definitely looking forward to putting my CYW skills into action.

This means a few small changes for Sex Ed Central. For one, I am going to work on making posts on two or three specific days of the week (for the sake of my own organization!). Secondly, I'm going to be posting more "third-party" content ... meaning content that I (or another awesome person) have found, read and enjoyed enough to share with you! Third, it means that I'm going to be busy, but my #1 passion is still teaching sex ed! So if you hear of something I might be interested in, or know someone who wants a workshop, please let me know!  *Note: Open Salon readers can contact me via my website - www.sexedcentral.com*


As always, thanks for reading and I would love to hear back from you!

Candice :)

Friday, November 11, 2011

Same-Sex Equality: An Uphill Battle

I am happy to say that we are one step closer to same-sex equality in the United States. In a 10-8 vote, a bill in favour of same-sex rights has cleared the Senate. This bill would entitle same-sex married couples to the same rights and liberties as their opposite-sex counterparts; it would see the 15-year old (and very discriminatory) Defense Of Marriage Act (DOMA) replaced by a more liberal Respect for Marriage Act.

The 10 Senate members to vote in favour of the bill were Democrats, while the 8 to oppose were all Republicans. No surprise there! And yet the simple fact that Republicans are - to date - not supportive of this bill could lead to its eventual defeat. It needs to be passed by the House of Representatives, and at this point, that house is dominated by Republicans.

Regardless of whether this bill makes it through this time, I'm confident that we will get there! Americans will, sooner or later, see equal rights extended to gay and lesbian couples, just as we have done in Canada. I'm excited for the day that happens and you can be sure I will be announcing it loudly!

The article I've gleaned this information from is well worth a read, and you can do so here: The Australian Times - US same-sex laws clear Senate hurdle.

- Candice

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Work, conference, learning ... yay!

Ok folks, I'm back! After a very busy week of work and then two days at the Central West Opening Doors Conference, I have returned to my computer to entertain and educate you!

If you haven't already read about the near-miss in Mississippi, you should read this post - Phew! Mississippi Personhood Amendment Defeated and learn more about the attempts of Republicans to take away women's rights to terminate unwanted and unsafe pregnancies as well as to use intra-uterine devices (IUDs). If it had passed, the Personhood Amendment could have even created legal problems for doctors offering in-vitro fertilization (IVF) in the case of embryos not surviving. YIKES!

So, back to the conference. First of all, it was a good time! I walked away from it having broadened my network, enhanced my knowledge, and renewed my passion for this work. I learned a great deal about HIV/AIDS - particularly relating to the personal experiences of people with HIV/AIDS (PHAs). I attended a workshop on mindfulness and enjoyed the in-session meditation exercise ... it was a good chance to find my brain surprisingly quiet! :)

In the end, though, what stood out the most was definitely a workshop I attended this afternoon on motivational interviewing (MI). While often used in the field of substance use disorders, MI can be useful to help people with a wide variety of issues. Throughout the workshop I became increasingly excited about the prospect of integrating MI into my own work. Dr. Tim Guimond was an absolutely fantastic session facilitator, and I am excited to learn more and put MI to good use!

I will keep you posted as I learn!

Candice :)

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

Phew! Mississippi Personhood Amendment Defeated

I read this disturbing (and yet reassuring) article a few minutes ago, and I just had to share it. It's scary how close women in Mississippi came to losing their right to choose. I can't say it better myself, so here's the original article, as found on the Huffington Post. This article is sure to draw attention from both pro-life and pro-choice individuals!

Don't forget to leave a comment below the post!

- Candice

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JACKSON, Miss. — Mississippi voters Tuesday defeated a ballot initiative that would've declared life begins at conception, a proposal that supporters sought in the Bible Belt state as a way to prompt a legal challenge to abortion rights nationwide.

The so-called "personhood" initiative was rejected by more than 55 percent of voters, falling far short of the threshold needed for it to be enacted. If it had passed, it was virtually assured of drawing legal challenges because it conflicts with the Supreme Court's 1973 Roe v. Wade decision that established a legal right to abortion. Supporters of the initiative wanted to provoke a lawsuit to challenge the landmark ruling.

The measure divided the medical and religious communities and caused some of the most ardent abortion opponents, including Republican Gov. Haley Barbour, to waver with their support.

Opponents said the measure would have made birth control, such as the morning-after pill or the intrauterine device, illegal. More specifically, the ballot measure called for abortion to be prohibited "from the moment of fertilization" – wording that opponents suggested would have deterred physicians from performing in vitro fertilization because they would fear criminal charges if an embryo doesn't survive.

Supporters were trying to impose their religious beliefs on others by forcing women to carry unwanted pregnancies, including those caused by rape or incest, opponents said.

Amy Brunson voted against the measure, in part because she has been raped. She also has friends and family that had children through in vitro fertilization and she was worried this would end that process.

"The lines are so unclear on what may or may not happen. I think there are circumstances beyond everybody's control that can't be regulated through an amendment," said Brunson, a 36-year-old dog trainer and theater production assistant from Jackson.

Hubert Hoover, a cabinet maker and construction worker, voted for the amendment.

"I figure you can't be half for something, so if you're against abortion you should be for this. You've either got to be wholly for something or wholly against it," said Hoover, 71, who lives in a Jackson suburb.

Mississippi already has tough abortion regulations and only one clinic where the procedures are performed, making it a fitting venue for a national movement to get abortion bans into state constitutions.

Keith Mason, co-founder of the group Personhood USA, which pushed the Mississippi ballot measure, has said a win would send shockwaves around the country. The Colorado-based group is trying to put similar initiatives on 2012 ballots in Florida, Montana, Ohio and Oregon. Voters in Colorado rejected similar proposals in 2008 and 2010.

Barbour, long considered a 2012 presidential candidate before he ruled out a run this year, said a week ago that he was undecided. A day later, he voted absentee for the amendment, but said he struggled with his support.

"Some very strongly pro-life people have raised questions about the ambiguity and about the actual consequences – whether there are unforeseen, unintended consequences. And I'll have to say that I have heard those concerns and they give me some pause," Barbour said last week.

Barbour was prevented from seeking re-election because of term limits. The Democrat and Republican candidates vying to replace him both supported the abortion measure.

Specifically, the proposed state constitutional amendment defined a person "to include every human being from the moment of fertilization, cloning, or the functional equivalent thereof."

The state's largest Christian denomination, the Mississippi Baptist Convention, backed the proposal through its lobbying arm.

The bishop of the Episcopal Diocese of Mississippi and the General Conference of the United Methodist Church opposed it.

Bishop Joseph Latino of the Catholic Diocese of Jackson, a church traditionally against abortion, issued a statement neither supporting nor opposing the initiative. The Mississippi State Medical Association took a similar step while other medical groups opposed it.

Mississippi already requires parental or judicial consent for any minor to get an abortion, mandatory in-person counseling and a 24-hour wait before any woman can terminate a pregnancy.

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Source: The Huffington Post - Mississippi Personhood "Amendment" Vote Fails

Want to learn more about the anti-rights efforts by US Republicans? The Huffington Post - Reality Check: Republican Losers Did Not Overreach

 

Wednesday, November 2, 2011

Race, Religion and Same-Sex Marriage

I am going to be completely honest ... in considering the issue of same-sex marriage equality, the notion of race has never been prominent in my mind. Religion, most definitely; many, if not most, arguments against same-sex marriage are based on some aspect of religion. But race? Not something I'd ever thought about.

Fortunately, I've been enlightened, even if the enlightening was both surprising and a little disappointing. It turns out that many black Americans are less likely to support same-sex marriage than their white or hispanic counterparts. According to an article posted on The Huffington Post, entitled Race, Religion and Same-Sex Marriage:

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"Last April, as the successful push for same-sex marriage in New York picked up speed, a survey of state voters by the Siena College Research Institute found that 62 percent of white voters and 54 percent of Latino voters favored it. Only 46 percent of black voters did.

And in Maryland, which is almost certain to debate same-sex marriage next year, a recent poll by Gonzales Research & Marketing Strategies depicted a split among the state’s residents, with 48 percent in favor and 49 opposed. Among black Marylanders, though, support fell to 41 percent and opposition rose to 59."

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I won't claim to understand the complex dynamics underlying the feelings of these - or any - same-sex marriage opponents. That said, I do wish to enlighten you with what I have read:

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"Like Burns, many African-Americans who oppose same-sex marriage do so on religious grounds. “This is a community composed of many Biblical literalists,” Bond said in a recent phone interview, adding that they put a “wrong and wrong-headed” emphasis on certain Biblical references to homosexuality.

But it’s also important to recognize that people lobbying for gay rights have at times given African-Americans pause by appropriating “civil rights” language and arguments in too broad a manner.

Wade Henderson, the president of the Leadership Conference on Civil and Human Rights, noted the existence of phrases like “gay is the new black” and said that attempts to equate the persecution of gay and black Americans can be “deeply offensive.”

African-Americans were enslaved. And during their brutal struggle for justice, they couldn’t make a secret of what set them apart from others, said Henderson, who supports same-sex marriage, during a phone interview Friday.

When gay men and lesbians glide over such details, he said, it feels “inherently disrespectful to the black experience in this country.” "

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In response to the clear lack of support for same-sex marriage amongst black Americans, an organization known as the Human Rights Campaign (H.R.C.) has launched a new effort, called "Americans for Marriage Equality". To date, the H.R.C. has posted three videos - all of which feature prominent black Americans. The key message is simple: Marriage is ... LOVE, FAMILY, COMMITMENT.







You can view the entire article by clicking this link: The Huffington Post: Race, Religion and Same-Sex Marriage

- Candice

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

ACCKWA Online Charity Auction

Hey folks!

As you may know, I volunteer at ACCKWA - the AIDS Committee of Cambridge, Kitchener, Waterloo and Area.  ACCKWA is busy doing lots of great stuff for our community, including educational workshops, advocacy and outreach to people at risk of or affected by HIV/AIDS.

Starting TODAY (NOVEMBER 1) through to NOVEMBER 9, ACCKWA is hosting their annual ONLINE CHARITY AUCTION. This auction helps to raise valuable funds to support ACCKWA in serving our community.

Take a few minutes to check out the items, and maybe bid on a few yourself! Simply go to Ebay and search for "ACCKWA". Place your bid and check back daily to see if you're still in the lead!

Let's raise money for a great organization!

Candice :)

Thursday, October 27, 2011

Hey parents, it's time to get talking to your kids

Talking to your kids about sex, that is!

I've made a few posts on this topic, and I've also written an informative, parent-focused article with tips and suggestions for parents: Sex Education for Parents.

That said, I have recently come across an excellent article written by Vanessa Cullins, Vice President for Medical Affairs at Planned Parenthood Federation of America. While Vanessa's article speaks particularly to parents of African American youth, what she says applies to virtually all parents, everywhere. I've taken this post from The Huffington Post - BLACKVOICES - as posted on October 21, 2011.

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There is one thing I can't stress enough about sex: The need to talk about it. My previous post on Black Voices was about how hard it is for adults to talk about sex -- with each other! So you can imagine how tough it is for us to talk about it with our kids. But talk we must! According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, African Americans ages 13-24 account for 56 percent of new HIV cases, and nearly half of all African-American girls between 14 and 19 are infected with a sexually transmitted infection such as chlamydia, herpes, or HPV.

Now is the time to have that conversation. October is Let's Talk Month, during which several national organizations, including Planned Parenthood, focus on encouraging parents to talk with their children about sex and sexuality. It can absolutely make a difference. Studies have shown, for example, that teens who talk about sex with a parent are more likely to delay sex, have fewer sexual partners, and use condoms and birth control when they do have sex.

But do parents really talk with their kids about sex? Planned Parenthood recently partnered with the Center for Latino Adolescent and Family Health at the Silver School of Social Work at NYU to find out. Released today, our new, nationally representative poll shows that most parents are talking to their kids about topics related to sexuality, agree that they are influential in the decisions their children make about sex, and are overwhelmingly supportive of sex education in schools.

Importantly, the survey of 1,100 parents of 10 to 18-year-olds found that African Americans were more likely than any other group to say that they would like help talking to their kids about sex. That's encouraging news when you consider that 64 percent of all parents surveyed said their own moms and dads didn't do a very good job talking to them about sex. That more of us are asking for help in figuring out how to best prepare our kids to make good decisions about their sexual health provides us the opportunity to set examples for how all parents can be successful in helping their kids navigate these waters. However, the poll also found that fewer parents are talking with their kids about tougher, more complicated topics. More than a quarter aren't talking about how to say no to sex, and, while 94 percent of parents believe they are influential in whether or not their kids use condoms or other forms of birth control if they do have sex, only 60 percent are actually talking with their children about birth control. Why? Many of us are too embarrassed or uncomfortable. But we must get over that.

The consequences of not talking are simply too great. A recent study conducted by Essence and the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy of 1,500 African American teen boys and girls found that nearly half of the 13 to 15 year-olds surveyed don't talk with their parents about sex because they think it would be too awkward. Yet two-thirds say there would be fewer teen pregnancies if more kids were able to talk with their parents. Two-thirds also said they would wait longer before starting to have sex if they were able to have open and honest conversations about it at home.

How can you make it less awkward? Talk openly and honestly, answer your kids' questions, and seize opportunities to help them make smart decisions about their relationships and behavior. Parents can begin the discussion as early as age six or seven. When a child reaches puberty, it's important to discuss love, relationships, and respect, but it's also important to teach teens how to say no to sex and how to access and make decisions about birth control when they do become sexually active. Throughout the teen years, it's critical to help your child understand the consequences of certain behaviors, and to help them establish boundaries. Should your teen become sexually active, you can help ensure that the relationship is emotionally healthy and that your child protects her/himself from pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections.

It's also essential that parents set guidelines that will make teens less likely to engage in sexual behavior before they're ready, and role-play with your kids, especially daughters, about how to negotiate boundaries in certain situations in age-appropriate ways.

Most of all, we need to help our children build self-esteem so they will want to take care of themselves and respect others. Parents can do that by giving their kids credit for their talents and accomplishments, and encouraging them to have long-term goals, like college. Talking with our kids about their plans will not only strengthen our relationships with them, it will also allow us to help them consider how the risks they take today may affect their dreams for tomorrow.

Planned Parenthood is an excellent resource for information on how to talk with your kids about sex and sexuality. Visit www.plannedparenthood.org to find out more. So, let's talk about sex!

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Tuesday, October 25, 2011

If being gay is a choice

As an LGBTQ ally, I have no problem stating that I absolutely do not believe that sexual orientation - hetero, homo, or bi - is a choice. I think that the idea that being LGBT is a choice is a load of ... y'know. I think that argument is often used by people who can not or do not want to accept that humans encompass a wide range of sexual orientations and preferences -- and each of them is as natural as any other. I have a wide range of LGBTQ friends, and every one of them will tell you that they have always been LGBTQ, they will always be LGBTQ, and they didn't "choose" to be LGBTQ.

That said, I can't say it as well as Dan Savage. In response to Herman Cain's statement that he believes homosexuality is a choice, Dan has invited him to prove it - by choosing it himself. What better way to support your own argument than to demonstrate it?



As posted by Dan on The Stranger's Slog blog (emphasis added by me):

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Dear Herman,

If being gay is a choice, show us the proof. Choose it. Choose to be gay yourself. Show America how that's done, Herman, show us how a man can choose to be gay. Suck my dick, Herman. Name the time and the place and I'll bring my dick and a camera crew and you can suck me off and win the argument.

Very sincerely yours,

Dan Savage

And then I'll say this: when someone argues that being gay is a choice, he's not just insulting gay people. (And ignoring the science of sexual orientation.) He's insulting straight people. If homosexuality is a choice, then so is heterosexuality. Last night on CNN Herman Cain said that being straight is something that a straight person can take or leave. Herman Cain believes that heterosexuality is something a heterosexual can decide to walk away from, like a underwater house or a lousy meal. Straight people should get angry when they hear a straight person making this argument.

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So far, Herman Cain has yet to back up his opinion with action. I'll keep you posted when it happens!

:P

Candice

Thursday, October 20, 2011

PFLAG needs YOU!

PFLAG Canada needs your support!


PFLAG offers essential support and resources to LGBTQ people and their families. They offer a confidential, toll free phone line for anyone with questions or concerns about sexuality and sexual orientation -- 24/7.


In addition to offering a toll-free phone line, PFLAG also offers web support, front-line volunteers, and educational programs. They support individuals, communities and groups; PFLAG Canada is there to help and support people like you, your friends and your loved ones.


Now they need you to support them.  PFLAG needs money to run, and that money comes from donations from you and me. I've donated, and now it's your turn. Support PFLAG NOW. JOIN ME -- donate and become a member!


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Wednesday, October 19, 2011

Sex Ed Central gets a radio plug!

My blog received a radio plug today, on 107.5 Dave FM.  In case you weren't lucky enough to hear it live, I've recorded it and posted it below. Listen in and see what Craig Fee had to say about my blog post, Sexual Satisfaction + Marriage + The Pill = ???

Enjoy!

Dave FM promo

- Candice :)

Sexy Humour: Church Bells

I found this joke on the Huffington Post, and I think it's worth sharing!

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Upon hearing that her elderly grandfather had just passed away, Katie went straight to her grandparent's house to visit her 95-year-old grandmother and comfort her.

When she asked how her grandfather had died, her grandmother replied, "He had a heart attack while we were making love on Sunday morning."

Horrified, Katie told her grandmother that two people nearly 100 years old having sex was surely asking for trouble.

"Oh, no, my dear," replied Granny. "Many years ago, realizing our advanced age, we figured out the best time to do it was when the church bells would start to ring. It was just the right rhythm. Nice and slow and even. Nothing too strenuous, simply in on the Ding and out on the Dong."

She paused to wipe away a tear, and said, "He'd still be alive if that frickin' ice cream truck hadn't come along."

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Tee hee hee!

- Candice :)

 

Sexual Satisfaction + Marriage + The Pill = ???

I've read a few articles about this study, and I'm still not entirely sure what to make of it ... but it's definitely worth a read!

The study, involving 2,519 mothers (mainly from the US and Czech Republic), looked at the relationships between the Pill, sexual satisfaction, and marriage. They've reached some pretty interesting conclusions:

Women who meet their partners while taking oral contraceptives (aka "the pill") report less sexual satisfaction in their relationships, as well as less attraction to their partners. That said, these women also report more satisfaction with other parts of their relationship, including the financial support they received from their partner. As well, those women were less likely to split from their partner.

Wondering how all of this works? According to researchers, it's about chemistry.

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The researchers had previously discovered that women's menstrual cycles affect the types of men to which they are most attracted. Part of having "chemistry" with someone is liking his smell, which is determined in part by an immune system molecule called MHC.

People tend to be attracted to partners with MHC types that are dissimilar from their own, probably because this would give their offspring a greater chance of survival by creating a diversified immune system. The pill, however, puts the body into a hormonal state similar to pregnancy — and pregnant women tend to prefer MHC scents that are similar to their own, probably because this would make them feel safe and comfortable around supportive relatives.

That means that if you're taking the pill, you may be more likely to find attractive men whose MHC is similar to your own — but during your regular cycle, these men might seem less your "type."


Indeed, during their most fertile phase, women tend to be drawn to more dominant, masculine men who are more likely to be unfaithful. In contrast, during the second part of their cycle, when they could already be pregnant, they are more attracted to calmer, more nurturing types.

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I'm sure there are many, many factors involved with attraction, sexual satisfaction and relationships ... taking the pill is only one of many influences. Nevertheless, this is pretty interesting research and I'll be watching to see what else the research may reveal.

Read the entire article here: How the Pill Affects Sexual Satisfaction, Lasting Marriage

- Candice

Monday, October 17, 2011

Newsworthy Sex: Potential infection exposure at Ottawa medical facility

Have you heard?

Nearly 7,000 people in the Ottawa area will be receiving letters informing them that they may have been exposed to HIV, Hep B and Hep C during procedures at a local (non-hospital) medical facility.

Yikes!

According to Ottawa Public Health (OPH) and Ottawa's medical officer of health (Isra Levy), there are currently no known infections resulting from "lapses in infection control" at the medical facility. At this point, the facility remains unnamed, although it's been referred to as a non-hospital medical facility. Also unspecified are the "lapses in infection control" which took place - though Levy did say that "there are a number of reasons why problems arise including the improper cleaning of equipment and inadequate sterilization" (CBC News).

Adding to the apparent list of unknowns - Ottawa Public Health isn't sure when the issue began or for how long it went on, which is why so many people are being contacted regarding potential exposure. Again, it's been made clear that at this point there are no known infections resulting from this potential exposure.

I'd hate to be in the line of fire on this one!

You can read more about this by clicking the links below:

CBC News: Ottawa says 6,800 exposed to infection risk

Fox News: Nearly 7,000 may have been exposed to HIV at Ottawa Medical Facility

More information should be available next week -- stay tuned!

Tuesday, October 4, 2011

Hey, Ontario! Are you voting for homophobia?

I'm warning you now - this post is going to be a rant. It's full of my opinions, and you are welcome to agree or disagree -- but please do so respectfully. Leave a comment, send me a message, sign up for my feed, share with others ... whatever you do, I ask you to read what I've said, think about it, and make your own decision.

For those of you living in Ontario, you will understand what I'm talking about; those of you living outside of Ontario, the essential knowledge is this:

  • Ontario is currently in the midst of a Provincial election campaign - voting day is this Thursday, Oct 6.

  • While there are multiple parties running in the election, the two leaders are the Liberals, led by Dalton McGuinty (currently in power) and the Conservatives, led by Tim Hudak. At this point it's looking like a tight race.

  • This past weekend, Conservative supporters in the GTA (Greater Toronto Area) handed out flyers about which I am writing this post; you can view the flyer at the end of this article, along with the Toronto District School Board document and the proposed 2010 Health and Physical Education Curriculum.


Back to my rant ...

Recently, a document was released which has been written for the Toronto District School Board (TDSB), entitled "Challenging Homophobia and Heterosexism: A K-12 Curriculum Resource Guide." As the name suggests, this resource guide (NOT curriculum -- a distinction the Conservatives apparently failed to notice) was written to support TDSB teachers and educators in battling homophobia and heterosexism. In the wake of all the recent LGBT teen suicides, you'd think that supporting the school board in challenging homophobia would be a good thing. Apparently not, to the Conservatives at least.

In response to this guide, the Conservatives have released an inaccurate, over-dramatized and anti-gay flyer, which they distributed, in English and Punjabi, throughout the GTA. The flyer claims the quote "cross dressing for six-year olds" is in the anti-homophobia document - which it isn't. The flyer also claims that these quotes are pulled from the proposed 2010 Health and Physical Education Curriculum -- which they aren't.

The central message on the flyer is "Don't want this for your kids? Parents don't have a say" - reflecting the suggestion of newsletters over permission slips. The resource guide suggests that, rather than sending home permission slips, teachers and educators send home newsletters outlining the topics to be discussed in the upcoming months.

"sending a school newsletter home at the beginning of each term is a best practice for keeping parents/guardians/caregivers informed of all upcoming equity topics in the classroom without having to single out one topic over the other."
(Challenging Homophobia, 2011)



As a sexuality educator, I agree with this move, because it allows for a natural and comfortable discussion with students - without the potential drama, overreaction and removal of students from the classroom - that can happen with permission slips. Y'know ... "Oh my goodness, they're talking about sex next week -- no way is my child going to learn about that!!!"

In other (slightly less dramatic) words -- sexuality is natural and part of every single human, whether they are six or 60 -- and curiosity about sexuality is just as natural. Let the kids get the facts about sexuality -- including the fact that homosexuality and sexual diversity is natural -- from someone!

Here's an idea ... Let's try to raise kids who don't bully LGBT youth to the point of suicide ... kids who don't hate themselves for being LGBT ... kids who are allowed to be themselves, even in school. Let's offer a safe space where kids have someone to talk to, whether they are gay, lesbian, trans, queer, questioning, straight, 2 spirited ... let's provide education and support to the educators and staff in schools, so they have enough knowledge and comfort to offer that safe space.

Wow, what a concept!

Naturally, Hudak didn't respond to questions or criticism about the flyer ... instead, he referred to the controversial 2010 Health and Physical Education curriculum, which, unfortunately, didn't make the cut after Conservative attacks and misinformed parental outcry. I remember it well - and I'm providing a link to the curriculum for your reading (see below). In the event that you don't want to read the whole thing, I have spent some time copying and pasting the "Human Development and Sexual Health" excerpts on this page. And because Hudak refers to the "McGuinty agenda" of teaching sex ed to grade 1 students, I've included that below:

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Grade 1

C1 - Understanding Health Concepts

C1.3: Identify body parts, including genitalia (e.g. penis, testicles, vagina, vulva), using correct terminology

Teacher prompt: “We have talked about the body parts that everyone has. What body parts do only boys have and what body parts do only girls have?”

Student: “Boys have a penis. Girls have a vagina.”

Teacher: “We talk about these body parts, like all body parts, with respect.”

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C 2 - Making Healthy Choices

C2.5: demonstrate an understanding of and apply proper hygienic procedures for protecting their own health and preventing the transmission of disease to others (e.g., washing hands with soap, using a tissue, sleeve sneezing, brushing and flossing teeth, not sharing hats or hairbrushes)

Teacher prompt: “Why is it important to wash your hands before you eat and after you use the washroom?”

Student: “Washing your hands helps to stop germs from spreading. We should wash with warm water and soap for as long as it takes to say the alphabet.”

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Imagine that ... teaching first graders the proper names for their body parts, along with proper hygiene. What horrors do the Liberals have lined up next? Acknowledging that almost all people - including LGBTQ people -  have sex? Talking about safer sex and preventing the spread of disease? Yikes!

The flyer:



So, Ontario, are you voting for homophobia? Are you voting for the anti-gay agenda of Tim Hudak and the Conservatives?

I'm not.

- Candice

Referenced in this post:

Challenging Homophobia and Heterosexism Final 2011

2010 Proposed Health and Physical Education Curriculum

CBC News: Ontario PCs grilled over flyer called anti-gay

Thursday, September 29, 2011

An interesting photo

This photo is circulating around Facebook right now, and I found it to be quite interesting. For one, it is a fascinating image of something I've never seen before - a pregnant uterus, removed from the mother's body and containing the fetus. It also depicts the stark contrast between the surgeon and the fetus, as shown by the tiny hand outside of the womb.

It's also interesting because the story posted along with it on Facebook - although touching - seems to be mostly false. I strive to be accurate in everything I post on this site, so I did a little digging (really, googling the fetus' name isn't difficult) and came up with a few stories about it.

Here is what I gather to be accurate about this photo:

It was taken during "a pioneering surgical procedure performed on August 19, 1999, to fix the spina bifida lesion of a 21-week-old fetus in the womb. The operation was performed by a surgical team at Vanderbilt University in Nashville. The team, Dr. Joseph Bruner and Dr. Noel Tulipan, had been developing a technique for correcting certain fetal problems in mid-pregnancy. Their procedure involved temporarily opening the uterus, draining the amniotic fluid, partially extracting and performing surgery on the tiny fetus, and then restoring the fetus to the uterus back inside the mother." (Samuel Armas, 2011)

While the popular story claims that the fetus reached his hand out of the womb and grasped the hand of the surgeon as though "thanking him for the gift of life", reports indicate that the surgeon himself contradicted this:

"The baby did not reach out," Dr Bruner said. "The baby was anesthetized. The baby was not aware of what was going on."

He also stated, “Depending on your political point of view, this is either Samuel Armas reaching out of the uterus and touching the finger of a fellow human, or it’s me pulling his hand out of the uterus … which is what I did.” (Samuel Armas, 2011)

I leave it up to you to decide what you want to believe, but please note:

I am not using this photograph to endorse any agenda or specific perspective. I am not using it to try to prove or argue anything - especially not from an anti-abortion/pro-life standpoint. I'm posting it because I found it interesting, because I like the photograph, and because I want to discuss it.



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- Candice

Wednesday, September 28, 2011

Birth Control Pill Recall

Although brief, this article interested me because it shows just how important clear packaging is to properly using the Pill. After all, the 3% failure rate isn't due to the pill itself - it's due to human error, such as forgetting to take the pill or failing to take it at the same time each day.

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If simple human error results in a 3% failure rate, I can only imagine what the potential failure rate would be in the case of a mistake like this - wherein the affected pills were put into faulty packaging. Although the pills themselves are completely up to par, the packaging was accidentally turned sideways, so that the lot number, expiry date, and labelled days of the week were no longer visible. Yikes!

The pharmaceutical company, Qualitest, has voluntarily recalled the affected pills. You can read the whole article and access the affected lot #'s here.

Remember, taking the pill at the same time of the day, every day = less risk of unintended pregnancy!

- Candice

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Another gay teen suicide - RIP Jamey


Jamey Rodemeyer, a 14 year old boy from New York, is dead. He committed suicide after being bullied over his sexuality. This is such a devastating story; another young person who was bullied and received so much hate that he couldn't see another way out.

A few months ago, Jamey posted a video for The It Gets Better Project. As the bullying continued, Jamey posted several more messages on YouTube and his blog, talking about his suicidal feelings and the abuse he was experiencing. Tragically, he hid what was going on from his parents, who were supportive of him and had enrolled him in counselling. I can only imagine how it felt to find his body outside of their family home on Monday.

I'm so angry and sad about this, I don't know what else to say.  So instead of rambling on, here is an excerpt from the article on "The Telegraph" where I first read about this tragedy.
Anonymous commenters were posting abusive messages under posts Jamey had made to Formspring, a social networking site, where he continued to discuss his unhappiness.

 

"Jamie is stupid, fat, gay and ugly. He must die!," one post said. Another read: "I wouldn't care if you died. No one would. So just do it :) It would make everyone WAY more happier!"

 

In an online posting earlier this month, Jamey wrote: "I always say how bullied I am, but no one listens. What do I have to do so people will listen to me?"

 

The day before, he wrote: "No one in my school cares about preventing suicide" and reminded his readers that it was national suicide prevention week. He then posted the lyrics to a song by the group Hollywood Undead, which read: "I just wanna say good bye, disappear with no one knowing".

 

On Sunday, Jamey made two final posts to one of his blogs – one saying he was looking forward to seeing his late great grandmother, and another in tribute to Lady Gaga, his favourite singer, who inspired him with her anthem to self-confidence "Born This Way". His body was found on Monday.

- Jon Swaine, New York (The Telegraph)

You can read the full article by clicking here: Boy, 14, found dead over gay bullying

Please spread the word about this most recent and devastating teen suicide.

Below I've listed a number of resources and helplines available to teens facing bullying, and LGBTQ youth in particular.  Please support these organizations however you can, whether by donating funds, taking a pledge or simply sharing a link to their site.

Thank you.

- Candice

YouthLine(Canadian) - 1 800 268 9688


PFLAG Canada


The It Gets Better Project


The Trevor Project (US) - 1 866 488 7386


PostSecret (not an LGBT specific site, but definitely excellent)


GLAAD


Sex Ed Central - Education Central